For those well versed in dating apps and the modern dating world, you probably are familiar with how much expectations can mess with a date. I went on many first dates but second dates were few and far in between. And when I did agree to a second date with a decent guy and good conversation, it usually tanked horribly! How was that even possible?!
Well when you go on so many terrible first dates, you start to think they’ll all suck (because they do). And then you finally have one kinda decent one and in comparison it seems amazing! Then you get your hopes up that you finally found a decent guy and your excitement for the second date and potential for more plays a huge factor in why they so often fail. At the end of our second date, the boyfriend and I both admitted to being extremely worried the date was going to go terribly because we’ve both experienced it so often in the current dating world.
Luckily that second date went well and our relationship blossomed, but this is still my first relationship. I was learning how often couples text and hang out. When the right time is to introduce your significant other to family and friends. I was experiencing the learning curve of being in a relationship!
But perhaps my lack of relationship experience is helpful when it comes to expectations. When you’ve been in relationships before you might think you know how it will all play out but certain behavior that your ex was okay with may make your current significant other uncomfortable. You need to learn your new SO’s communication style. Do they not like texting? Do they walk away during an argument? You’re also learning what makes her happy and what topics/situations stress him out. Everyone is different making every relationship different. And having expectations can sometimes make that hard.