I’m not sure why you still talk about her
Can’t you see that it hurts me?
You haven’t spoken to her in months but yet
Here she is again in our conversation
In your mind and in mine
I feel like she has a permanent place inside of you
Inside our relationship.
I feel crazy for not being able to let it go
But have you let her go?
She’ll drain us both if we let her
Argh it’s so hard being in this position! Like living with a ghost in the house
Haha god damn that’s a much better analogy! But yes it can really mess with your mind if you try to ignore it or act like it’s not bothering you
1. He needs to figure out for himself what this really means. 2. Preferably share this honest answer with you (?), so 3. You all can move on. Otherwise it will gnaw on you…
Awe! Hugs.
I can relate. I have been in that situation and I ended up loosing him to her in the end 😔
That’s so tragic, I’m sorry that happened! There’s a character on here i used to talked about, Stubborn, who would always talk about one of his exes and that’s who i worried about but a year later it’s his other ex he’s actually chasing!
And such things really hurt.
I feel like it’s a matter of perspective. You could see it as, its not her he’s not over with, its just a memory or lesson that may have traumatized him. He is still learning from the experience and it may take him time, years even, to fully understand what happened. The guy needs closure.
I see your point, but would you prefer if he got closure BEFORE getting into a new relationship?
Definitely.
ugh, I can relate to this so well.
its tough right?
Its so, so difficult. I’ve always been guilty of being on the either side and it was really eye opening to experience it as the person being hurt. Then I experienced it a few more times. Its so hard.
I wonder why we say it, sure talking about our past experiences is a cornerstone for communication but how should we draw the line? Talk about exes but be vague? Forget they ever existed and never bring them up?
I’ve made the decision to forget and never bring them up again and I think it is actually helpful to help us move on from the past. I only wrote a post about dating on here to discuss some situations but overall I never bring exes up in life anymore and don’t keep photos or anything like that.