All relationships have their road bumps and rough patches and its during this time we try to find answers and connections to those around us. So who do you turn to?


Friends and Family

You may turn to close family and friends who have been experience your relationship through its duration. This problem is that friends and family are not part of every conversation, every intimate moment, and every moment together. They’re bias in their love for you and could also be bias on their own feelings on your significant other. Some might instantly suggest a break up because they never liked him and they’re been waiting for this chance.


Message Boards (Reddit, Quora, etc)

Some might want to keep their issues private from friends and family and find message boards to be an unbiased third party. Let me tell you, the internet has a lot of emotions and opinions, they are always bias. They may have had their own personal history with the issue you’re facing now. Things might not have worked out for them since they are two different people and their relationship is different from yours. They’ll give you advice based on their experience and outcome but that doesn’t mean it’s the right advice for you. Strangers are also quick to judge and are not at all emotionally invested in your or your relationship. They do not have your best interest in mind, only their own opinions.


The rest of the internet (blogs)

Half of my blog is focused on relationship advice so it seems like a contradiction to tell you not to listen to myself and fellow bloggers, but yeah totally don’t listen to us. We’ve had our own experiences and have formed defense mechanisms against heartbreak, but our words may not be your truth. We tell our stories in the hopes that you may relate and find community here but it is still your life and your decision to make.


So who do you listen to?

Feel free to listen to the stories and advice to those around you and on the web, you’ll resonate with some and fight against other ideologies. This is your gut telling you your truth. Try your best to be self aware and realize if you are self sabotaging or if your intimacy issues or past heartbreaks are standing in your way. Issues in a relationships are often a chance for growth if you’re ready for it.