I met this awesome girl on a dating app, we talk everyday nearly all day. Problem is, whenever I bring up meeting in person she always has something else going on. It’s been three weeks already and I’m afraid to ask her again if she’s willing to go on a date with me.
Dear Stuck online,
I think 3 weeks is definitely on the stretch of waiting too long to meet up. The answer is Yes, move on. Sadly, this girl isn’t interested in you enough to meet up
Reasons she might not want to meet up:
She’s just not into you
She likes the attention and is stringing you along
She’s hung up on her ex / they’re back and forth on trying to work things out
She’s starting seeing someone else and is waiting to see if they’ll be exclusive soon
Whatever the reason, things aren’t going to work out and you might want some pointers on
How to Move on:
Get a Definite Answer
Unfortunately you have to suffer a little pain to get through it. You need a direct answer from her that she is not interested and you guys will not meet. If this doesn’t happen then you will always wonder if now is a better time for her. You need to be able to some fantasizing about a relationship you could have had. She needs to stop that in its tracks with a solid NO.
Make sure you’re not exclusively talking to her.
You need to take your mind off her and also unload all your eggs from her basket. Invest some effort into a few girls so you’re not so heartbroken when one doesn’t work out. One girl will make you realize how easy it is to start dating someone when they’re truly into you.
Refocus on work, a hobby, working out.
You need to untangle a bit from the online world and realize your value outside of relationships. Focus on you and bringing things back into your life that you enjoy. A happier you is a more attractive you! Your friends will be happy to see you off your phone and laughing with them.