December and Christmas Playlists

December: Forever Love

Cheryl Lynn and Luther Vandross’ If this World were Mine from 1998 lists all of Mother Nature’s treasures and gifting them to your love. Listen here

Whitney Houston’s I Will Always Love You from 1992 is a song of a Love that will last forever even though the couple does not. Some love never dies. Listen here

Etta James’ At Last from 1960 is a song that holds up to the test of time when loneliness is finally replaced by Love. Listen here

John legend’s All of Me from 2013 displays a realistic love that flourishes even with it’s imperfections. Listen here

Luke Combs’ Forever at Last from is a song where Life can take its toll on you but a deep love will always hold you through. Listen here

Bonus: Christmas Playlist

Elvis Presley’s Blue Christmas from is a song focused on the importance of being with your loved ones for Christmas. It doesn’t matter where you are, but who you’re with. Listen here

Michael Buble’s Holly Jolly Christmas from 2011 is a must have on this Christmas Playlist and you can’t go wrong with any song from his Christmas album. You can’t have Christmas without Michael Buble! Listen here

Mariah Carey’s All I Want for Christmas is You from 1994 might be a song you hate to love but let’s face it, it’s a total bop! She doesn’t want any material gifts, just her lover. Listen here

Husband and Wife duo Elmo and Patsy’s Grandma Got Ran Over by a Reindeer from 1979 is an odd choice I’m sure, but it reminds me of my childhood and Christmas is all things Jolly so it’s making the list. Listen here

Wham!’s Last Christmas from 1986 is a song of trying not to be someone’s fool yet again. Listen here

The Holidays Can be Hard for Some

The holidays are bright and loud with music and family. For many people, it’s their favorite time of year. In all the celebration we tend to forget those among us who struggle with the holiday season.

 

Lonely

The holidays are all about being surrounded by friends, family, and loved ones. Unfortunately this can sometimes backfire into making us feel lonely instead of part of a larger community. For starters, you may have a small family or have special family members missing this year in the holiday festivities. These parties and gatherings put an emphasis on that emptiness. On the other hand, you may have a large family and are far from alone during this time of year. But you may feel disconnected and that amplifies the feeling of loneliness. You’ll be hard on yourself for feeling lonely when you’re not alone.

 

Solution

Focus on those you do feel connected to in your life. Whether its friends instead of blood relatives or a community on the internet that you truly feel a part of, make sure to spend quality time connecting with these important relationships in your life.

 

Single

During the holiday season, the emphasis on family also puts pressure on you starting your own family which begins by finding a partner. Relatives routinely ask you when you’re going to settle down and find someone nice to bring home and meet the family. You see lots of pictures on social media for friends and family with their significant other and it can make you feel inadequate for not having a partner as well.  

 

Solution

Feel free to handle your nosy relatives however you see fit. Just know that there is no need to rush into a relationship that you don’t want or aren’t ready for. That could lead to ending up with someone that isn’t really right for you and wasting time not being truly happy. A partner may not be a part of the future you envision for yourself and that should be respected as well.

 

Expectations

The holidays are also at the end of the year when most people reflect on the highs and lows of that year. The New Year is also right around the corner and many people set goals and expectations for themselves to achieve. Every part of life can’t be planned and unfortunately most people find themselves behind on their goals. They’re not where they want to be in life and they’re upset that another year has passed without much improvement.

 

Solution

Goals sometimes have to be adjusted so that they can be realistic and reachable. Some people see this a negative thing but setting a small, reachable goal can produce big results. You’ll feel accomplished for reaching this smaller goal and motivated to continue on instead of defeated by missing your original goal. Life may alter your goals completely and that can be devastating. But this new life path can lead to new goals and new victories.

 

Ex-Mas

The holidays bring up all kinds of feelings like Joy, Love, Loneliness, and Nostalgia. One begins to think of what they accomplished (or failed to) over the past year and all the holiday parties have a way of pointing out how alone they feel. The Holidays have a way of making someone think back to times when they were wanted and comforted.

Suddenly you get text from your ex!

Why?!

First option is that they’re just bored and horny. These are the fuckboys that breadcrumb you, maybe it’s one from your local neighborhood and you’re both home for the holidays with not much to do. Or if they’ve been lonely for a while, the holiday season really puts them in ‘the mood’ wink wink*.

Second option is that your ex want to reconnect. It’s possible you’ve only been broken up for a short time. They still miss the connection and comfort of having someone there. They may still even have feelings for you and view the holidays as the perfect time to reestablish communication. They’re hopeful they can win you over again and maybe restart a once great relationship.

Lastly, is the ex who just likes to catch up, kinda like distant cousins or friends from high school. Like the relatives you only see during the holidays, this ex just wants to exchange polite hellos and how have you beens, but not much feeling flowing between the two of you. You appreciate a relationship that once was, but know it will stay in the past.

So do you respond to the text?

You have needs too, if you want an ex to scratch that itch then so be it. But remember ambers can start fires again, be careful you don’t get burned. Maybe you’re not the only ex nostalgic about an old relationship. Did it end poorly? For good reasons? Are you open to reconnecting too? If you’re in a new relationship then it’s important to talk to your partner about comfort level. Sure the third type of ex is respectful but if the first type hits you up with a late night booty call then your current partner will most likely not appreciate it. Make sure everyone gets on the same page of where you stand.

Enjoy your holiday everyone!!

 

 

What to Get Your Significant Other for the Holidays?

Some Significant others are hard to shop for whether they’re selfless, minimalist, or some other reason. The best way to get around this is to buy them some type of experience. By that, I mean an event or date you two can do together. This way you’ve shown your love by paying for something and you know they’ll enjoy it because they always enjoy spending time with you.

Event ideas: sporting tickets, plays, cooking classes, paint night, and concerts.

Maybe you’re not really the romantic type and you view the holidays as the one time need to really show your SO how much you truly love them. Attention to detail is important here, your SO wants to know you cherish every memory together just like they do. Think back to when you first meet, the date, the place, any inside jokes or little details you can recall.

Romantic route: engraved necklace with anniversary date or other significance, framed photo of the two of you

I talk about online dating quite a lot, there’s a good chance if you’re a new couple then you met through a dating app. This is a tech savvy generation and it would be no surprise if your SO wants one of the new tech product or accessories coming out.

Tech products: iPad, camera, or speakers (add a personal touch by customizing a case for your significant other)

Something I love is listening to my Boyfriend talk about his passions. The spark in his eye and the child like excitement when he really starts getting into such a topic is so fun for me. The joy radiates off him and even I start to get excited, like a puppy when family walks in the door. Buying something related to your SO’s passion or hobby will give them at that excitement and they will cherish the fact that you pay attention to the things they care about.

Something for their hobby: sporting equipment, seasons of their favorite tv show, art supplies, signed collectables item, or cook book

The last suggestion is not that original but it’s hard to go wrong here. With the cold months approaching they might be lacking some proper attire. It’s practical, functional, and stylish to get winter clothes for your SO. Plus you can pair it with a winter date idea like ice skating or a ski trip. It’s a cute way to introduce the date idea and give them something tangible to open besides tickets to an event.

Apparel for a cute winter date: hats, scarves, gloves, and shoes/boots/slippers