The lack of security in your heart
keeps your mind on guard for the graveyard shift.
You’ve seen an unkind world close up, right in your own kitchen.
But even the most beautiful flowers are planted in dark soil
so please close your eyes and sleep tonight.
I’ll be releasing my third poetry collection in a month on July 16th!!
If I’m honest, I let this collection sit for a long time and I could have had it gone 6 months ago. But I’m very happy with the end result and I hope you will be too!
If you’re interested in an eARC, please reach out to me at ddateable@gmail !!
Let me tell you a little about the collection!!
Titled: Even the Leaves
Synopsis: Even the Leaves fell for you, so how could you except me not to?
This collection explores how Mother Nature nurtures and shapes us through every part of our lives. This collection expresses relationships with family, partners, and yourself through aspects of nature such flowers and mountains, seasons and months, animals, and bodies of water. Nature is a medium that connects us all.
Length: 67 pages
Release Date: July 22nd
Available on Amazon !
You have shaped me.
I am brash to combat your meekness.
Your strength is so quiet
I sometimes discredit its perseverance.
Mine is hot and loud.
But there are times the flames
can dwindle so low
I’m not even sure they’re even there.
Even so, I’ve made sure your silence
will never be in my library of responses.
I have no qualms about speaking up
when your politeness squeezes your throat.
I will make your voice heard
to those dressing you up with their own ideals.
I may approach a subject as delicate as a bull charging red
but I am on your side even if I do not share your finesse.
She’ll never know the young woman
she could have been if she didn’t
grow up under your hawk eye criticism.
You talk about her big Italian nose
and her spilled out thighs
as if that nose didn’t come from you and your mother.
As if her first breathe wasn’t between yours.
You come around long enough
just to let him down
before your tires start spinning again.
After the rubber burning smoke is gone
you still leave him standing here alone again.
The same tail lights have daunted his dreams
Since he was just 5.
He gave up hope long ago
that you would ever be any father of his.
Shouting for the attention
Your momma never gave you growing up.
You are not your sisters.
Parenting is not a one size fits all.
You were sensitive and destructive.
So you give out the love you never got
because you never want your love
to be questioned like your 12 year old thoughts
You weren’t close to family by blood
but you found brothers young
who still surround you to this day.
You pledged to brotherhood in college
and choose a career where you stand
in a line full of brothers in blue.
You’re the most resourceful
and willful man I know.
You could let me be your family too.
I imagine myself at a table
with your friends.
Where you’ve finally let me in
to be approved by the family
built with time and loyalty.
In life, you face a lot of struggle. You might grieve a lost loved one, lose a job, or face a dispute with a friend. Fortunately, you usually have people in your life you can lean on including your partner. Tragedy affects everyone differently so if this is the first time you’re helping your partner through something, you might not know the best way to comfort them.
Let Them Know You’re There
There can be a lot of thoughts rushing through their head at this time, they may feel that expressing their feelings are a burden for you or they might be so consumed that they haven’t thought of you to lean on. So you let them know you’re there for them offering support in any way they want or need. You’re ready for when they want to talk. You’re a shoulder and open ear.
Read the Room
Some people want to talk out their issues, others prefer to silently work through things on their own. You may think how you’d react during this hard time and may think you know what’s best for your partner. But they may deal with their grief in a different way then you do. Keep an open mind to this and try to not take it personally if they are keep their emotions close to their chest. Don’t project your own ideals onto them and don’t push them for what they’re not ready for.
Validate their Feelings
Writing things down on paper or talking out your concerns is a good healing process for the soul. Sometimes you just need to vent or cry or scream – you just want to be heard. So validate your partner’s feelings. There doesn’t always need to be a solution or plan of action. Be a soundboard as they navigate through this new territory.
Know it’s always an ongoing process after losing a loved one.
Losing a loved one will hit you in new and unsuspecting ways. A tv show, a street sign, a song could all bring memories rushing back even after time has passed. The loss will still ache whether it’s years or months. Anniversaries and special holidays will always be tender for your partner. There is no start and end to this healing process, it will ease both of your minds to accept this. Just because there are tears today does not mean there will be tears tomorrow, so don’t worry or judge when you’re having a hard day. You will always remember them because they are always with you.